The statistics are rather startling.
- 90% of 8-16 year-old kids have viewed porn online (most while doing homework)
- The average age of the first online view of porn is 11 years old
We need to ask ourselves why 8 and 11-year-old children are looking at porn. They aren't even sexually mature at that age. What is going on here?
Our culture is so heavy with references to sex and the various forms of sexual expression that kids are hearing references to sex at a very young age. Just last week I heard announcers on a local radio station telling listeners that 75% of men and 54% of women would rather have sex than watch the Super Bowl. If you were a 9-year-old child, getting all geared up for the Super Bowl, wouldn't you wonder what this "sex" thing was about?
Next question. 9-year-old kids are part of the digital age. What do they do when they want information about something? They do an internet search, of course. Try it yourself. When I Googled sex, the top three listings were educational in nature (I could have learned all I wanted to know) and the next few were porn, of course. I never click on porn sites. I know not to.
I don't think 8 and 9-year-old children go to the computer to watch porn. I think they go to the computer for information and then end up watching porn.
I ask you, is this how you want your kids or the kids you care about to find out about sex? I didn't think so.
You can block these sites from the computers in your house. But your kids will look over the shoulder of a buddy who has an unprotected computer. And smart phones are another source for streaming porn videos.
Here is an answer that will work.
Give your kids and the kids you care about accurate information about sex. Include slang words. Make sure children know what oral sex is and be sure to cover the slang words there too. Why? I Googled blow job. Here is what I found. The first listing was for Wikipedia. Wikipedia describes a blow job and includes pictures. After that listing I got listings for porn videos. Again, I didn't click on any of the porn sites, I know better. I ask you, would you rather tell your child what a blow job is or have your child watch one being performed on a porn video?
Give your kids information about sex. Then tell them to NOT EVER click on the porn sites and tell them why.
Healthy attitudes about sex are learned.
If you need help figuring out how to talk to your kids about these sensitive subjects, contact me. I help parents talk to kids about sex.
I have raised 3 children and I know what it feels like to tell your own kids about sex and sexual expression.
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You don't have to act today but you really ought to act soon.