My grandmother comforted me with words of wisdom she had received from her own mother, "You can't have flowers and babies at the same time." Whether a woman is trying to balance childrearing with gardening or with her career, the underlying message is the same; raising children takes a significant amount of time and effort. Other pursuits may need to take a back seat.
It comforted me to hear this message from my grandmother. She had experience. She knew. She and her mother, my great grandmother, had reorganized their lives to accommodate the demands of childrearing. They had figured it out. And they passed the message down: You can't have flowers and babies at the same time. A woman shouldn't try to do it all, at least not all at the same time. Women learn valuable lessons as they age. We all benefit when we share those lessons with other women. There's comfort and assurance to be had when we hear that others have struggled in similar ways; others have found solutions that might help us. Women can share stories, solutions, and struggles with each other. And we can share with the next generation as well - the girls of today will be the women of tomorrow. We need each other. Let's stay in touch.
Join our conversations on Facebook. Connect with other women in the group there called Raising Daughters and fan the Facebook page, Fabulous to be Female. We can talk and stay in touch there.