"Where we keep claiming the light, we will find ourselves becoming more and more radiant."
-Henri Nouwen
How would you like to be more joyful, event radiant, as the quote above suggests? It sounds good to me! But how do we go about it? That’s the hard part. Or is it? Maybe we have just to apply a few simple principles; that’s what the field of positive psychology is learning and telling us. Here are 3 proven techniques to increase your happiness:
- Practice gratitude. Each evening, near the time you go to sleep, reflect on your day and list five things that you enjoyed and are grateful for from the day. Those things can be “little” things; they often are. After you make the list spend a few moments concentrating on your list of five and feeling grateful for those moments, events, or people in your life. End your day in this spirit of gratitude. If you are only going to do one thing to improve your happiness do this one and keep it up for at least 30 days. I think you will be amazed and delighted at your results. This one activity alone may transform your level of happiness.
- Engage in activities that you enjoy and that you are good at. What are those for you? What are you good at? What do you enjoy doing? Try to do more of those things. They are a well of healing and rejuvenation.
- Cultivate and invest in positive relationships. If you don’t have positive relationships in your life get help to transform your relationships and/or get out and meet some new people. Find people you like; hang out with them and learn from them. Get counseling if you need it; it’s amazing how a few simple techniques and strategies can transform some relationships. There are wonderful people out there in the world and there are gifted therapists. Invest in friendships and quality partnerships.
To live a more joyful life you have to pay attention and put forth some effort. But as you can see, the strategies are rather simple. You're worth it. Give it a go. Life is yours to live; if you want to live it in joy, even radiance, then go for it! It’s up to you. For even greater reward do this as a mother-daughter activity. Teach the next generation as you boost your own joy.
