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Joan was an RN with decades of nursing experience. When she found the lump in her breast she didn’t tell anyone. She couldn’t bear the thought of surgery, chemotherapy, radiation, and all that went with those treatments. She silently hoped the lump would disappear and she kept her secret for a full year before seeking care.  Joan’s lump turned out to be a lipoma, a simple fatty tumor, and it was removed in a minor surgical procedure. She didn’t have cancer after all.

Joan should have sought care earlier; early detection and intervention is the key to positive outcomes in treating breast cancer. A study released at the ASCO (American Society of Clinical Oncology) Breast Cancer Symposium earlier this month revealed that a startling 75% of women who died from breast cancer had not participated in breast cancer screening. Early detection saves lives.

We continue to make progress; breast cancer rates are declining. The most recent report from the American Cancer Society proclaims that breast cancer rates have dropped by another 2%, continuing a decade-long decline. That means about 15,000 deaths were avoided in 2009 alone. This is good news!

And there is more we can do. Healthy lifestyle practices including regular exercise, maintaining a healthy weight, breastfeeding, and limiting the intake of alcoholic beverages can reduce the incidence of breast cancer by a whopping 38%, according to a recent report by the American Institute for Cancer Research/World Cancer Research Fund entitled, Food, Nutrition, Physical Activity, and the Prevention of Cancer: A Global Perspective.

Encourage the women you know to get their mammograms and to seek out care when something seems amiss. Fear and secrecy don’t work, empowerment and action do. Promote breastfeeding. Make changes in your own lifestyle to incorporate exercise, healthy eating, and weight control; your positive example helps those around you change their habits.  It’s time to imagine a world without breast cancer! We must keep working toward this goal. I believe we can do it if we work together and if we help each other.  

Lipstick.  I use it to remind me of who “I” am; to help me claim my strengths. It works; I leave the house with renewed confidence and I think I stand up a bit straighter after I’ve applied my lipstick. How can a simple tube of lip color do all that? It’s a process.

 First of all I don’t wear just any lipstick. I have my color; I chose it carefully. My color looks good on me and it goes with everything.

I apply my lipstick with care. I open the tube and turn the lower part of the cylinder to expose the colorful stick. I look in the mirror and pay attention as I apply color to my upper then my lower lip. Then I press my lips together to blend the color. One last glance in the mirror assures me that I’m ready to go.

I wear my lipstick just about every time I leave the house. I often wear it to the gym too, which may seem odd. No makeup, barely a brush through my hair but I will probably put on my lipstick.

I use my lipstick as an anchor. As I apply it I concentrate on the moment at hand. I remind myself to live an authentic life; to live the truths and values that I carry with me and know deep in my core. This anchoring helps me stay true to myself and to live my life in a meaningful way. It’s a bit of a spiritual experience, I suppose.

None of the great religions include lipstick application as a ritual or prayer form. Maybe they should. I think many of us need contemporary rituals to remind us of what is good and holy and true in the world; they can provide an anchor. Without regular practices and reminders we too easily get swept up in the waves of the latest controversy or the newest game, show, or electronic “application.” There are so many things that vie for our attention; there are so many messages telling us what we should do and who we should try to be like. It’s very easy to loose touch with who we ARE. So I apply my lipstick and I use the ritual to remind me of who I am.

A simple tube of color, that’s what lipstick looks like. But it can be so much more. Does anyone else have a “thing” with lipstick? I’d love to hear your story or your thoughts!

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My grandmother comforted me with words of wisdom she had received from her own mother, "You can't have flowers and babies at the same time." Whether a woman is trying to balance childrearing with gardening or with her career, the underlying message is the same; raising children takes a significant amount of time and effort. Other pursuits may need to take a back seat.
It comforted me to hear this message from my grandmother. She had experience. She knew. She and her mother, my great grandmother, had reorganized their lives to accommodate the demands of childrearing. They had figured it out. And they passed the message down: You can't have flowers and babies at the same time. A woman shouldn't try to do it all, at least not all at the same time. Women learn valuable lessons as they age. We all benefit when we share those lessons with other women. There's comfort and assurance to be had when we hear that others have struggled in similar ways; others have found solutions that might help us. Women can share stories, solutions, and struggles with each other. And we can share with the next generation as well - the girls of today will be the women of tomorrow. We need each other. Let's stay in touch.
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