The prospect of talking to your kids about sex can make even the most experienced parent feel tongue-tied and uncertain. Some parents avoid the topic and simply hope their child picks up the necessary information.
Other parents struggle with what to say and when to say it.
Question: Do you really need to talk to your kids about sex?
Answer: Yes, you do. Keep reading to see why.
Parents who talk to their kids about sex:
- Set up a channel of communication that can be essential later, when many teens and young adults start having real-life questions about sex, dating, and relationships
- Protect their kids from being exploited in relationships and sexually
- Instill values about sex that are healthier than the values the culture teaches
- Provide context so kids understand when sexual activity is appropriate and when it is inappropriate
Don't worry, you don't have to do it alone! This education pack will do most of the job for you!
We know it's uncomfortable. We know that kids clam up when paretns bring up the topic of sex. We've created a product that works anyway! And we urge you to get started and here's why:
- Elementary-aged children hear about sex from age-mates, often as early as 2nd grade.
- 75% of 5th grade students know something about sex and much of the information is incorrect.
- Healthy attitudes about sex are learned and they are learned early.
- Most kids want to know what their parents think about sex and sexuality but don’t believe their parents are open to talking about it so they avoid the topic, like everyone else.
- Over 80% of 8-16 year-old children have viewed porn online. They have no idea what to make of those porn images.
- Between 20-30% of middle school youth are sexually active and by the time they are in high school 46% report they have had sexual intercourse.
- Teens and young adults are woefully unprepared for real-life sex.
You may be thinking, “My child is young. He/she won’t be sexually active for a long time!” That may be true. However, kids benefit from getting sound information from parents and other trusted sources. Matter of fact, your child has already picked up a lot of information about bodies, sexuality, and relationships. He/she has learned from many sources, including school, TV (and other media), friends, internet sites, and you, his or her parent. Some of the messages your child is learning about sex are downright wrong while other pieces of informaiton may be accurate. There are likely gaps in your in your child's understanding. Help fill in the gaps so your child doesn't come to harm from her/his lack of understanding. Consider the drawing below.
Gaps in understanding and skills exist as you can see - between the blue boxes below:
We know YOU want to protect your son or daughter from these negative outcomes.
This program, Talking to Your Kids about Sex, will take you by the hand and guide you and your family through the content and conversations you need to have about sex and sexuality. The program offers:
- Information to protect kids
- Flexible lessons so you can adjust for your child and for the values you want to teach
- Highly-accessible content
- Guidance and confidence for parents
Who put this program together? Talking to Your Kids about Sex was designed and written by an RN with over 15 years of experience talking to kids and parents about issues around sexuality. She knows what she’s doing. She has helped hundreds and hundreds of families. Her name is Amy Sluss, you can look her up and find out more about her, if you want, but here is what you really need to know:
- Parents trust her.
- Organizational leaders trust her AND hire her year after year to address families they care about.
- She works with Girl Scouts, Soroptimists, National Charity League, schools, youth programs, and churches.
- She is an author and an acclaimed family-life presenter who has worked with families for over 18 years.
- She has an amazing ability to take confusing and complicated information and make sense of it.
- On top of all of that, she has a heart of gold and a sense of humor.
- Click here to see her in action - you'll find out how she helps parents talk to kids about sex.
Your can trust her. She will help you.
Consider what parents who have used the program have to say.
"I have always been open to questions my kids have had about sex but as they have become teenagers, the questions have dried up as they have become less comfortable with the subject. This program helped open up the conversation again. We were able to revisit some things and bring up new topics like dating and premarital sex. The conversation was uncomfortable at first but became easier as we listened to the stories on the cd and responded to the questions. Thank you Amy for this important work.” ~Nicole Browne
“As a single Dad, I find myself in the position of being both the Dad and the Mom to my teenage and near-teenage daughters. The information that I learned from this program was invaluable to me. It will allow for me and my daughters to experience an even closer relationship than we already have. After all, there is no bond like the bond of a father and his daughters.” – Michael Bedard
Talking to Your Kids about Sex, the program for families, will fill in the cracks and gaps so that as your child moves toward then traverses the teen years, he or she will be on solid ground; we want your child to be prepared for the harsh and often WRONG information about sexuality that is spread through the teen population.
How, exactly, does this program, Talking to Your Kids about Sex, fill in the gaps? The program addresses four distinct areas that your child will need to master:
- Self-understanding and self-acceptance.
- Relationships: what's healthy and what's harmful (you want your child to know the difference).
- Basics of sexuality: how bodies work.
- Safety skills: how to avoid sexual exploitation and eventually - unwanted pregnancy and STDs
Parents win too. They get:
- An easy-to-use nonthreatenting program.
- Step-by-step guide that takes the fear and uncertainty out of talking to kids about sex.
- Ready-to-use messages to share with young children, preteens, and teens.
- Confidence that they have prepared their child so that he/she knows what to do when the culture bombards him/her with sexual content (and that will happen, it’s only a matter of time).
You can trust the words of these community and organizational leaders:
“We all know we should talk about sex with our children more but we don’t know how to do it. Amy Sluss is here to help. Not only does Amy cover the content, she makes people feel comfortable and confident that they can handle it too.” –Mary Machi, mother and youth leader
“Amy Sluss presented her professional and inspiring Coming of Age series to our middle school program. Parents and students alike gathered and learned. Participants were pleased, staff was pleased, and I was pleased. I highly recommend this program and Amy's work." – Rev. Padraig Greene, Parochial Administrator, Catholic Community of Pleasanton
“Thank you for leading this wonderful event.” – Kerry Barcellos, Programming Director, Girl Scouts of Northern California
“This is just the kind of quality programming we want to offer.” – Liz Rogers, Director of Faith Formation, Catholic Community of Pleasanton
“This is the beginning of a very long relationship! Every church should offer this program.” – Cheryl Blea, children’s ministries director, Valley Community Church, Pleasanton, CA
First off you get a 100% guarantee. The content and usefulness of the Talking to Your Kids about Sex program is guaranteed. If you are not satisfied you can have your money back. That’s how strongly we believe in our product and in the value offered in this program.
The program includes:
1. Instruction pages for parents
2. Interview with family-life specialist and author, Amy Sluss RN
3. E-book, Talking to Your Kids about Sex, Beyond “The Talk”
4. Stories for Families audio program
5. Three sets of posters with key messages for you to print and hang up in your home
You can have all of these tools in your hands in a matter of minutes. Just click below to purchase the package. Minutes later you will be set to download the documents and audio program. You will need Adobe Acrobat Reader to access the text files. The audio is in mp3 format so you can listen on your computer or through any personal audio device.
It’s time to act.
The culture sends messages to your child every day about sex and sexuality. Give your daughter and/or son a better message than those sent by the culture. This program will help you do just that.
The program is just $49.95. That’s less than it costs you to take your child out for dinner and a movie.
Give your child the gift of healthy and positive messages about sexuality.
Remember, the program is 100% guaranteed.
And it was written by someone who cares about families and the health and well-being of your child.
For those of you who want more details, here is a bit more about what the program includes. You will receive:
1. Parent introductory packet: Gives parents an overview of the program with suggestions for how to use the materials. Direct and to-the-point instructions; four pages long.
2. Interview with author and family-life specialist Amy Sluss: 23 pages of engaging conversation to inform, give confidence, and inspire parents.
3. Three sets of posters you can print then hang up in your house: Messages and quotes speak for themselves and are handy ways to imprint messages to family members.
4. Audio program: Stories for Families. This 28 minute audio program is a collection of stories you listen to with your kids. Questions and prompts follow each story to encourage conversation.
5. Ebook , Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Beyond “The Talk.” This popular book is 89 pages and packed full of activities and content to help you get the job done. Table of contents follows.
Table of Contents E-book, Talking to Your Kids about Sex, Beyond "The Talk"
Why you should talk to your kids about sex
What we know
How to use this program
Common Mistakes and Parent Fears
Five common mistakes parents make
“I’m not comfortable talking about sex”: Identifying your own fears and misgivings
“I’m concerned for my child”: Common parent fears for their child’s well-being
Goals and Objectives
What I want for my child
Consider your teen’s goals
Suggested learning objectives for healthy sexual development by age group
Preschool years: My body is good
Elementary years: How are babies made?
Preteen and middle school years: Is my child ready?
Teen and high school years: Is everybody doing it?
Real Life, Real People
Conversations by age group
Preschool and elementary years: How are babies made?
Other conversations to start in late elementary school
Preteen and middle school years: Is my child ready?
Teen and high school years: Is everybody doing it?
Other conversations for various age groups
Take advantage of teachable moments
Stories for Families
How to use these stories
Story 1: The Family Tree
Story 2: As Comfortable as a Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwich
Story 3: Inchworms
Story 4: The Bride and Groom
Story 5: My Mother’s Gift
Story 6: Are You Talking to Me?
Values, Intimacy, and Relationships
Identify your values
Lessons and values to consider teaching
Seven types of intimacy
Activities for Families
A note to teens
Activity 1: You Think Parenting Is Tough? Try Being a Teenager!
Activity 2: What Are We Waiting For?
Activity 3: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
Activity 4: If It Feels Good, Do It!
Activity 5: When It’s Good, It’s Very Good; When It’s Bad, It’s Awful
Activity 6: I Never Thought It Could Happen to Me
Activity 7: Fact or Crap?
Activity 8: Yes, No, Maybe So
Activity 9: A Lost Art: Letter to a Loved One
Appendices and Resources
Appendix A: Pro/Con List for Becoming Sexually Active
Appendix B: Sex at Its Best; Sex at Its Worst
Appendix C: Fact or Crap Answers